Comments for Brenna Verhoeff http://pagesofparenthood.net/blog PagesofParenthood.net Mon, 16 Apr 2012 23:48:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 Comment on ‘Those’ moms by Heidi Caswell http://pagesofparenthood.net/blog/?p=405&cpage=1#comment-174 Heidi Caswell Mon, 16 Apr 2012 23:48:36 +0000 http://pagesofparenthood.net/blog/?p=405#comment-174 Hang in there and keep protecting your kids. One of my best friends understands what you are going through. Completely. If you'd like to get in touch with her, left me know. Every birthday, and every Christmas, he'd serve new custody papers to her at her office. Said because he didn't have her address. He did. When she moved to Texas and he stayed in California, the courts said he needed his dad and had to spend some time with him. Part of the summer and Christmas vacation. One time her son did not return home. Frantic she calls. No answer. Over time she learns he took their son and moved, and although court orders said dad could not take him out of state, she later found him in Oklahoma where his dad and enrolled him in school. The court said let's not disrupt the boy, let him stay in OK for school. A boy needs his dad. We'll give Dad full custody so his schooling won't be interrupted. and you pay child support, never mind that dad is years behind. You are still required to pay for the time he had son in Oklahoma supporting by himself (after dad ran away with son). Surely mom is lying about the abuse. NO! says mom. If you lived in Oklahoma we'd give joint custody, but you don't. Mom said that will be fixed. She was laid off from her job, looking for a new one, worried about her son. She drove to Oklahoma every other week, renting a small apartment so he could get a break from dad. Spending her life's savings. One night she got a call from OK police. Come pick up your son. His dad has been arrested. Assault, battery, attempted murder of his new wife. Son was there. Mom got her son back, but in a very troubled state. She got a new job, in CA. Moved. Her ex got out of jail. Seems they didn't believe the other lady either. She had a drug record and must of hallucinated everything. Why do women like to pick on him? Make up terrible stuff said his family. He was spotted in California stalking her. He didn't have her address, he no longer had custody. Served custody papers again. Wanted his son back. This time son (16) had a long talk with a judge who listened. Mom kept custody. Later they get another call. Her ex abducted another woman. One who wouldn't date him a 2nd time. She even married another guy. Abducted by gunpoint. Stopped at police barricade where he finally put his gun to his head and killed himself. She was "one of those moms". Cheers for all "one of those moms." Even her co-workers didn't believe her stories until the suicide/abduction came out in the news. Hang in there. Hang in there and keep protecting your kids. One of my best friends understands what you are going through. Completely. If you’d like to get in touch with her, left me know. Every birthday, and every Christmas, he’d serve new custody papers to her at her office. Said because he didn’t have her address. He did.

When she moved to Texas and he stayed in California, the courts said he needed his dad and had to spend some time with him. Part of the summer and Christmas vacation. One time her son did not return home. Frantic she calls. No answer. Over time she learns he took their son and moved, and although court orders said dad could not take him out of state, she later found him in Oklahoma where his dad and enrolled him in school. The court said let’s not disrupt the boy, let him stay in OK for school. A boy needs his dad. We’ll give Dad full custody so his schooling won’t be interrupted. and you pay child support, never mind that dad is years behind. You are still required to pay for the time he had son in Oklahoma supporting by himself (after dad ran away with son). Surely mom is lying about the abuse.

NO! says mom. If you lived in Oklahoma we’d give joint custody, but you don’t. Mom said that will be fixed. She was laid off from her job, looking for a new one, worried about her son. She drove to Oklahoma every other week, renting a small apartment so he could get a break from dad. Spending her life’s savings.

One night she got a call from OK police. Come pick up your son. His dad has been arrested. Assault, battery, attempted murder of his new wife. Son was there. Mom got her son back, but in a very troubled state. She got a new job, in CA. Moved.

Her ex got out of jail. Seems they didn’t believe the other lady either. She had a drug record and must of hallucinated everything. Why do women like to pick on him? Make up terrible stuff said his family. He was spotted in California stalking her. He didn’t have her address, he no longer had custody. Served custody papers again. Wanted his son back. This time son (16) had a long talk with a judge who listened. Mom kept custody.

Later they get another call. Her ex abducted another woman. One who wouldn’t date him a 2nd time. She even married another guy. Abducted by gunpoint. Stopped at police barricade where he finally put his gun to his head and killed himself.

She was “one of those moms”. Cheers for all “one of those moms.” Even her co-workers didn’t believe her stories until the suicide/abduction came out in the news. Hang in there.

]]> Comment on ‘Those’ moms by Dawn http://pagesofparenthood.net/blog/?p=405&cpage=1#comment-173 Dawn Mon, 16 Apr 2012 22:36:45 +0000 http://pagesofparenthood.net/blog/?p=405#comment-173 You are strong! Or, at least much stronger than those that never get the courage (or perhas chance) to leave. You are smart! In that you realize the cycle of abuse and know that you do not deserve it! You are a beautiful role model! What a wonderfully strong women you are modeling for your sweet daughter. The system is flawed! Society is flawed! Until every woman demands justice our mothers, sisters, aunties and daughters risk becoming victims. Although you may feel as if you are fighting a losing battle as one f those women, you have already become a survivor. Thank you for your voice! You are strong! Or, at least much stronger than those that never get the courage (or perhas chance) to leave. You are smart! In that you realize the cycle of abuse and know that you do not deserve it! You are a beautiful role model! What a wonderfully strong women you are modeling for your sweet daughter. The system is flawed! Society is flawed! Until every woman demands justice our mothers, sisters, aunties and daughters risk becoming victims. Although you may feel as if you are fighting a losing battle as one f those women, you have already become a survivor. Thank you for your voice!

]]> Comment on I’m just… by Jodi http://pagesofparenthood.net/blog/?p=388&cpage=1#comment-128 Jodi Mon, 20 Feb 2012 19:23:47 +0000 http://pagesofparenthood.net/blog/?p=388#comment-128 Awww...Thanks for the shout-out, Brenna! AND the very timely reminder that there is no "just" about any of this. Awww…Thanks for the shout-out, Brenna! AND the very timely reminder that there is no “just” about any of this.

]]> Comment on I’m just… by Jan http://pagesofparenthood.net/blog/?p=388&cpage=1#comment-127 Jan Mon, 20 Feb 2012 12:37:18 +0000 http://pagesofparenthood.net/blog/?p=388#comment-127 You're JUST amazing... and I know, because I see you parenting every day. You’re JUST amazing… and I know, because I see you parenting every day.

]]> Comment on What is wrong with me? by Alicia http://pagesofparenthood.net/blog/?p=349&cpage=1#comment-116 Alicia Wed, 08 Feb 2012 15:41:04 +0000 http://pagesofparenthood.net/blog/?p=349#comment-116 Hey hun! I feel all the pains and I know it's hard. You have to take care of yourself, and make that a priority. Yes some things will still end up being a bit more important that your food as a mom. But if you don't take care of you, you can't take care of your kids, job and your soicial life. So what the hell's the point? That's the realization that keeps me working on it anyway. You'll never be perfect about it, just start making small changes, but make those changes stick. On days i don't feel like eating anything, cause there's still lots of those days, I drink a protein shake. Most days I snack on multigrain crackers and cheese, raw veggies... all easy and good for you. Protein and veggies are very important and the hardest ones to get down sometimes lol gotta love that. But it does take time, and though some days you feel awesome, others you don't. I just try my best to stay on the positive side when I can. It's a fight for everyone dear :) keep fighting every day though! You are worth it, damn it! :D Hey hun! I feel all the pains and I know it’s hard. You have to take care of yourself, and make that a priority. Yes some things will still end up being a bit more important that your food as a mom. But if you don’t take care of you, you can’t take care of your kids, job and your soicial life. So what the hell’s the point? That’s the realization that keeps me working on it anyway. You’ll never be perfect about it, just start making small changes, but make those changes stick. On days i don’t feel like eating anything, cause there’s still lots of those days, I drink a protein shake. Most days I snack on multigrain crackers and cheese, raw veggies… all easy and good for you. Protein and veggies are very important and the hardest ones to get down sometimes lol gotta love that. But it does take time, and though some days you feel awesome, others you don’t. I just try my best to stay on the positive side when I can. It’s a fight for everyone dear :) keep fighting every day though! You are worth it, damn it! :D

]]> Comment on Built-in playmates by brennaj618 http://pagesofparenthood.net/blog/?p=256&cpage=1#comment-107 brennaj618 Thu, 19 Jan 2012 15:31:21 +0000 http://pagesofparenthood.net/blog/?p=256#comment-107 I get a few. I'm not sure how Jan Verheoff set up my blog, but I have to approve all comments so its pretty easy to weed through the spammers. Contact her at janverhoeff@yahoo.com and she can help you out! I get a few. I’m not sure how Jan Verheoff set up my blog, but I have to approve all comments so its pretty easy to weed through the spammers. Contact her at janverhoeff@yahoo.com and she can help you out!

]]> Comment on Built-in playmates by brennaj618 http://pagesofparenthood.net/blog/?p=256&cpage=1#comment-106 brennaj618 Thu, 19 Jan 2012 15:29:12 +0000 http://pagesofparenthood.net/blog/?p=256#comment-106 Honestly, I'm probably the most technology challenged 26 year old on this planet. I get on here to post my blogs but all my maintenance is provided by Jan Verhoeff, my web developer. You can reach her at janverhoeff@yahoo.com, she would be more than happy to assist you! Honestly, I’m probably the most technology challenged 26 year old on this planet. I get on here to post my blogs but all my maintenance is provided by Jan Verhoeff, my web developer. You can reach her at janverhoeff@yahoo.com, she would be more than happy to assist you!

]]> Comment on Built-in playmates by how to build a cheap shed http://pagesofparenthood.net/blog/?p=256&cpage=1#comment-105 how to build a cheap shed Sun, 08 Jan 2012 04:32:01 +0000 http://pagesofparenthood.net/blog/?p=256#comment-105 Greetings! I know this can be kinda off topic however I was wondering in case you knew where I could get a captcha plugin with regard to my comment form? I’m using the same blog platform as yours and I’m experiencing difficulty finding one? Thanks a lot! Greetings! I know this can be kinda off topic however I was wondering in case you knew where I could get a captcha plugin with regard to my comment form? I’m using the same blog platform as yours and I’m experiencing difficulty finding one? Thanks a lot!

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]]> Comment on Built-in playmates by Hung Whitted http://pagesofparenthood.net/blog/?p=256&cpage=1#comment-103 Hung Whitted Mon, 05 Dec 2011 23:32:03 +0000 http://pagesofparenthood.net/blog/?p=256#comment-103 Just wanted to tell you, I liked your post; it brings up many of the issues that aren't easy to find posted in a single article. It’s hard to clarify, so everybody is aware of where you're coming from. I used to be unclear on some problems with this essential problem that is attracting quite a lot of attention. With your clarification I've a much better understanding. It's surprising how clear your concepts are, you make me think of things I never thought of before. I realized loads from your examples and many others will learn too. Your simple post is intriguing. Your article applies to us all, it's going to help many move to begin thinking. Years in the past, most individuals weren't as knowledgeable on the subject as you are. Just wanted to tell you, I liked your post; it brings up many of the issues that aren’t easy to find posted in a single article. It’s hard to clarify, so everybody is aware of where you’re coming from. I used to be unclear on some problems with this essential problem that is attracting quite a lot of attention. With your clarification I’ve a much better understanding. It’s surprising how clear your concepts are, you make me think of things I never thought of before. I realized loads from your examples and many others will learn too. Your simple post is intriguing. Your article applies to us all, it’s going to help many move to begin thinking. Years in the past, most individuals weren’t as knowledgeable on the subject as you are.

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